For any relationship, it is important to communicate. Pent-up feelings and hot tempers never resolve anything, trust me I know!
Talking calmly and in an organized fashion helps. I've often heard of some people writing a letter to someone else to solve problems. You can read over it and edit! Also, always talk about the problem with a clear head. Otherwise, it could turn ugly pretty quickly.
According to BBC, giving undivided attention, taking turns, always starting sentences with "I" rather than "you", and always showing that you are listening through body language (maintaining eye contact) are key essentials to solving conflicts.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/couples/comm_listen.shtml
Why is it that arguments RARELY ever follow these guidelines? The appreciation for communication is lost. The freedom of speech amendment is abused constantly, in my opinion. I think if are allowed to say what you feel and believe, say it intelligently and calmly.
I think that employers, friends, family, girlfriends, boyfriends, etc would appreciate some good communication skills. Think about how many divorces could have been prevented if couples talked out their problems before they turned into World War III.
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I definitely agree with the method of writing a letter before you confront someone about the problems between you. I have done this a few times because I am the type to keep my emotions in. I have even worked out my problems on the phone before, so I could “read” my letter to the person to keep myself calm and rational. Communication is the key to developing healthy relationships, but I find it ironic that we seem to be having more problems with this in marriages when we have so many devices to communicate with. Maybe these pieces of technology hurt more than help solve our problems because we can’t use eye contact and such like BBC recommends.
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